Hi guys, how was your week? Mine was a roller coaster of emotions. I guess motivation is a drug that should be taken daily.
The title of this post is a bit funny and unconventional I know but I figured it was high time I wrote it because I’m at a point in my life where I have decided to be shameless about my goals, what I want to do with my life and where I want to be in the nearest future. Hopefully someone would be able to relate.
Shameless (adj) ;Not feeling ashamed of behaving in a way that people do not approve of.
This is the context in which I will be using the word in today’s post.
You know it’s not just when you do something “bad” that people don’t approve of right? People might not approve of a major career change, a lifestyle change, your fashion choices, a bold decision to turn your life around for good. Sometimes it’s pure bad belé (jealousy), other times it’s because they don’t know better or they are simply projecting their own fears on you. Either way don’t! I repeat don’t let them stop you.
Over the years I have lost some opportunities because I have been too ashamed to come out and say that I want something. For many reasons which could include people don’t see you that way, you aren’t qualified enough for it, you aren’t popular enough, you aren’t as beautiful as the other people doing it, you aren’t as smart as those people, you are wierd, you could never fit in and that would laugh or tag you as desperate or over-ambitious but what eventually happens is that you lose the opportunity to someone who isn’t necessarily “better” than you are but more confident (who has no shame going after what they want).
For example when I was still in the university I would never come out for a leadership position even if I wanted it except it was handed to me. Like people needed to see me as worthy or deserving of it and validate me. I figured that way nobody could say nothing. Lol
Well guess what? when you live your life waiting for things to be “handed” to you, you’ll get scraps or nothing at all. I mean, nobody is going to just hand over the position of President to you.
Ever experienced someone being picked over you for a position because you were too scared of rejection to apply, indicate interest or contest for? and then the person later comes to you for advise on how to do the simplest things related to that position?
It’s so annoying! Like “I should be the one doing this”!
What’s even more annoying is when a person who really doesn’t care or want something gets picked over you who wants it so badly and would do a greater job. This happened to me during my youth service year. I wanted to be president of my CDS so bad but I never said it. I was chosen as VP and the guy that was eventually picked as president when things got rough, would never pass up an opportunity to say “I never wanted this” , “I’m too busy for this” .Never!
I am not saying that everytime you go for something like a job or position you badly want or are qualfied for you’ll get it. what I’m saying and trust me on this one is that in future, the “shame” of not being picked or accepted won’t feel half as bad as the regret from not even trying.
By virtue of nature(not to brag), I always get noticed when I’m in a group and responsibilities eventually fall on me which always makes me an active part of the team. The problem with this is that you are just sitting there and letting people decide what they think you can or can’t do. There are so many things you are great at and people can’t see it because you haven’t shown it. So don’t blame them when they pick someone else who has come out in the open (shamelessly) to actually say “I can do this”
People won’t always approve of you but don’t let that shrink you into who you are not. Instead of sitting around and expecting things to miraculously “fall on you” you should start being more vocal, intentional and shameless about the things that you want.
Stand up, come out of the crowd, say you want it, say you can do it, show them that nothing can stop you, keep pushing for it, let people laugh and say whatever they want, just keep putting yourself out there and remember that the more NOs you get the closer you are getting to your YES!
As for me I want to be an INFLUENCE in my generation! A FORCE to be reckoned with in the world’s creative space.
NOW is the time to be shameless about those goals!
Let me end with this quote…
“There are people less qualified than you, doing the things you want to do, simply because they decided to believe in themselves. Period”. – Unknown
Thanks for reading. Feel free to drop any comments or questions you might have below.
Till next time..byeeee