Hi guys, how was your week? Mine was a roller coaster of emotions. I guess motivation is a drug that should be taken daily.

The title of this post is a bit funny and unconventional I know but I figured it was high time I wrote it because I’m at a point in my life where I have decided to be shameless about my goals, what I want to do with my life and where I want to be in the nearest future. Hopefully someone would be able to relate.

Shameless (adj) ;Not feeling ashamed of behaving in a way that people do not approve of.

This is the context in which I will be using the word in today’s post.

You know it’s not just when you do something “bad” that people don’t approve of right? People might not approve of a major career change, a lifestyle change, your fashion choices, a bold decision to turn your life around for good. Sometimes it’s pure bad belé (jealousy), other times it’s because they don’t know better or they are simply projecting their own fears on you. Either way don’t! I repeat don’t let them stop you.

Over the years I have lost some opportunities because I have been too ashamed to come out and say  that I want something. For many reasons which could include people don’t see you that way, you aren’t qualified enough for it, you aren’t popular enough, you aren’t as beautiful as the other people doing it, you aren’t as smart as those people, you are wierd, you could never fit in and that would laugh or tag you as desperate or over-ambitious but what eventually happens is that you lose the opportunity to someone who isn’t necessarily “better” than you are but more confident (who has no shame going after what they want).

For example when I was still in the university I would never come out for a leadership position even if I wanted it except it was handed to me. Like people needed to see me as worthy or deserving of it and validate me. I figured that way nobody could say nothing. Lol

Well guess what? when you live your life waiting for things to be “handed” to you, you’ll get scraps or nothing at all. I mean, nobody is going to just hand over the position of President to you.

Ever experienced someone being picked over you for a position because you were too scared of rejection to apply, indicate interest or contest for? and then the person later comes to you for advise on how to do the simplest things related to that position?

It’s so annoying! Like “I should be the one doing this”!

What’s even more annoying is when a person who really doesn’t care or want something gets picked over you who wants it so badly and would do a greater job. This happened to me during my youth service year. I wanted to be president of my CDS so bad but I never said it. I was chosen as VP and the guy that was eventually picked as president when things got rough, would never pass up an opportunity to say “I never wanted this” , “I’m too busy for this” .Never!

I am not saying that everytime you go for something like a job or position you badly want or are qualfied for you’ll get it. what I’m saying and trust me on this one is that in future, the “shame” of not being picked or accepted won’t feel half as bad as the regret from not even trying.

By virtue of nature(not to brag), I always get noticed when I’m  in a group and responsibilities eventually fall on me which always makes me an active part of the team. The problem with this is that you are just sitting there and letting people decide what they think you can or can’t do. There are so many things you are great at and people can’t see it because you haven’t shown it. So don’t blame them when they pick someone else who has come out in the open (shamelessly) to actually say “I can do this”

People won’t always approve of you but don’t let that shrink you into who you are not. Instead of sitting around and expecting things to miraculously “fall on you” you should start being more vocal, intentional and shameless about the things that you want.

Stand up, come out of the crowd, say you want it, say you can do it, show them that nothing can stop you, keep pushing for it, let people laugh and say whatever they want, just keep putting yourself out there and remember that the more NOs you get the closer you are getting to your YES!

As for me I want to be an INFLUENCE in my generation! A FORCE to be reckoned with in the world’s creative space.

NOW is the time to be shameless about those goals!

Let me end with this quote…

“There are people less qualified than you, doing the things you want to do, simply because they decided to believe in themselves. Period”. – Unknown

Thanks for reading. Feel free to drop any comments or questions you might have below.

Till next time..byeeee

Hi guys, hope your week is going great? I have been putting in so much effort to be as positive and optimistic as possible about my life, my plans and goals and so far it is working. I’m content, happy and ready to take it one step at a time. After all, the joy is in the process not the destination.

I’m moved to write this blog post not because I have it all figured out but because I want to encourage someone out there who might be going through these struggles as a content creator.  While I don’t like to put myself into a box because there is so much more to me than being a content creator I sometimes refer to myself as that.

What is content creation? It is the contribution of information to any media, mostly digital media for an end-user/audience in specific contexts. (Wikipedia)

What you need to ask yourself is as a content creator what do I want to contribute to the online world?

For me, going into bogging was less about the money and more about connecting with people and making impact. Helping people become a better version of themselves by sharing my experiences and what I have learnt over the years.

When I got into blogging, entertainment and gossip blogs were all the rage because they had more traffic and made more money. That’s not me!

I started my blog in 2017, for self-expression and because of this my life has taken a whole new turn. I have been exposed to an online community full of brilliant minds most of which I follow to gain from their wealth of experiences or pick up a thing or two that would be beneficial to me and my blog. Somewhere along the line, this move started to backfire. I was struggling to put out content because I kept comparing myself to these other bloggers. I took a long break from blogging because according to me I wasn’t getting things right, my pictures were not good enough and my content needed to be tweaked a little you know to look more like theirs. I was down and even considered shutting down my blog. I had been so exposed to these people and their lives and what their own idea of blogging was that I was losing myself into the crowd.

 

I use mostly instagram to connect people with my blog and recently a lot of trends were popping up. New ways of editing pictures, organising your feed, updating your insta stories and so on, it was becoming so overwhelming and distracting me from my own ideas. I am unique and yes I want to create content for people to read and enjoy but if I have to do it like everyone else what’s the point. And while I am very open to learning in my field, I discovered that I was uninterested in learning some of those things and trying to keep up did me more harm than good.

Before these people and their techniques of doing things, I wanted to create content, I had my own ideas, but suddenly they were no good because it didn’t look like what these other bloggers were doing. I felt like I wasn’t creative at all. I was following them for inspiration but sometimes it can backfire, leading you to comparing and ultimately loosing yourself.

So I decided to go back to my drawing board, notes I had made a long time ago before I started blogging. I laughed and it made me realise how far I had deviated from the plan. People! I cannot overemphasize the importance of writing your ideas and visions down. If you aren’t used to writing please start, if you can’t keep a notebook and pen download a note app on your mobile device. I use Colour note, it is very easy to use and helps me organise my thoughts.

Later that week, I went to my instagram page and unfollowed a bunch of these bloggers and influencers. Not because I had any beef with them but for my own peace of mind. So that I could get back to doing my thing my way. Would I follow them back again? Probably, but not anytime soon.

I’m just going to be me! Whether anybody likes it or not. What’s the essence of being a creative if you can’t be unique and bring something different to the table? Even if nobody will pay me for it, I find joy in expressing myself, not channelling someone else all in the name of inspiration or trying to monetize content.

While I currently blog and run a printing and fashion business. I know that I have a whole lot more to put out there in terms of content. Looking into video content as well, your girl ain’t going no where! Hehehe

I hope you enjoyed reading? Let me know what you think in the comment section.

Till next time.

Byeeeeeeeeee!

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Hey guys, how is your week going? and how are those goals coming along?

I decided to do a style post today, on something that has been around for a while now but I recently added to my closet. It’s the wide leg jumpsuit, in African prints (Ankara).

Now I have a number of African fabrics in my closet thanks to my mum who buys them and my Dad (Yes Dad!) who sometimes gives me yards of his left over fabrics. So I decided to make one instead of buying a ready to wear piece.

All I had to do was pick the right fabric and the right person to bring my jumpsuit to life. So, I contacted Slayed by DC (slayed_by_dc on IG). I saw a picture on Instagram of a beautiful jumpsuit she had made for someone and followed the tag on the picture, to my surprise she was a friend from high school. I sent the fabric and voila this beautiful piece was born!

Jumpsuits are so comfortable (don’t ask me how I go to the bathroom!) and versatile. I love that it’s in African prints too because the colours are so vibrant, you’d definitely get noticed when you walk into a room (yeah, because the jumpsuit is all that!).

It is simply stylish, perfect for parties, picnics, weekends, and even for the office

Throw on some nice jewellery and you’ll look sophisticated in seconds. This would work for a dinner/date.

Jumpsuits are fun and a go-to in times of wardrobe emergencies. Try copping two or three of these babies for yourself in different prints and fabrics.

Need a reliable designer? Contact @slayed_by_dc on Instagram. Thank me later!

What do you think of this outfit? What’s your go to outfit for wardrobe emergencies? How would you style this outfit? Share your thoughts below.

 

“Fashion is about dressing according to what’s fashionable. Style is more about being yourself” – Oscar de la Renta.

This simple quote says it all for me. Style is all about self expression, being comfortable, feeling beautiful and confident in what you wear. For me, it is never really about trends because certain trends don’t cut it for me and even when I ‘follow’ fashion trends I alter them to make them work for me.

On a good day you’ll find me wearing loose fitting clothes like T-shirts, oversize shirts, mom jeans, sweat shirt and pants etc. Whenever I need to dress up for a girls night out or a date you’ll find me wearing something short and free. Like I said earier I love comfort.

I also wear a lot of tiny straps, alterneck or offshouder tops and dresses. Showing just the right amount of skin when I need to.

How would you define your style?